Moms have this general feeling: you wake up feeling positive today’s going to be a good day. Then, perhaps, somewhere in between the morning rush where your kid spilled your coffee on your clothes, you’ve got another little one screaming for attention that it seems like it’s going to be another day when angry mom comes in.
The truth is, no mom ever wanted to have an outburst due to frustration or anger. Every mother has that universal desire to make the home a happy and peaceful place. However, this is easier said than done.
Moms today are faced and burdened with so much pressure. And whether you’re a working mom or not, there’s a lot to do as soon as you wake up. It can feel overwhelming, like a never-ending cycle of to-do lists that just never get done. This, in some cases, can bring in mom rage as a result of all the piling up stress and emotions you may have been dealing with.
If that’s the case for you, you’ve come to the right place today, as this might be day one of dealing better with and overcoming mom rage with these tips below.
- Commit To Change
Single or rarely-occurring incidents of angry conflict at home are fairly common. Moms have so much stress to deal with, so you can only imagine how their mood can be on the roof sometimes. What’s unacceptable, however, is when mom rage becomes too frequent. You don’t like that version of you, and surely, your kids feel the same way too.
Perhaps, incidents of angry conflicts have been occurring lately, and you feel you can no longer control your emotions such that your kids are somehow becoming afraid of you. This could be a telling sign you need to try seeking therapy. There’s’ no shame in that. In fact, it shows that you’re acknowledging the problem and your commitment to change.
Therapy can help moms address any emotional and psychological burdens they’ve been carrying. The piling up of all the negative unaddressed emotions may be what’s causing your outburst, and seeking professional help through counselling can just be exactly what you need.
- Pause And Take A Deep Breath
As soon as your alarm rings for the day, it’s easy to get caught up in the moment and feel instantly overwhelmed at everything you have to face for the day. It’s a fast-paced day, once again, but this doesn’t mean you don’t have a few moments to spare to pause and breathe.
Having a good start to your day begins with a peaceful and positive morning. A good tip to apply is to wake up at least half an hour earlier than the rest of your family does. By doing so, you have a few minutes to yourself – to do what you want.
This time may be spent meditating, gathering your thoughts, doing a few stretches, or even a simple thing like taking your time in the shower. Pausing to take a deep breath may just be what you need for a calmer state of mind.
- Give Yourself A Break
The expectations that moms should be perfect, unstoppable, and able to do everything all at once may also be contributing to why most mothers today feel so much stress and pressure.
When you’re a working mom, juggling both your job and the demands of parenthood can be overwhelming and tiring. While, on the other hand, for stay-at-home moms, there could be a feeling as if you never have time for yourself anymore. And in some cases, there’s a longing for an identity outside of the home.
It could feel as if you’re drowning at times. But remember, it’s not selfish to give yourself a break. Moms also need that breather once in a while. Allow yourself to do what you love, whether revisiting an old hobby or starting a new passion project, or as simple as going out to spend some time with your friends. You can also go for some me-time, pampering yourself at the salon or a spa, or even just take a scenic walk or jog around the park.
If it’s been too long since you last did something for yourself, try it out this weekend. You may just be surprised at the newer and better version of yourself you’ll see once you come home.
- Learn To Set Realistic Expectations
There are only a few waking hours in a day, and even the best of all moms certainly has limitations. Consider taking a look at your daily to-do list. Perhaps, one of the reasons why you get frustrated and burned out easily is that you’ve always got that never-ending pressure and desire to do more and be the best mother for your kids.
It’s normal for moms to want to give their all. But, at the end of the day, you’ve also got to learn to set realistic expectations. For instance, you don’t have to cook the healthiest meals three times a day, seven days a week. You can take a break if you just want to have pizza on a Friday evening. Or, your home doesn’t have to look sparkling clean all the time.
Setting realistic expectations is healthy. Moreover, it can help take so much stress and burden off your shoulders. Who knows, you may just be a lot happier – and your kids, too.
Mom rage is a real thing. After all, you’re a human too. You get tired, frustrated, stressed, and overwhelmed from time to time. It’s normal. But, it doesn’t always have to be a norm in your home.
Don’t worry, moms, as you’re not alone. Here’s to hoping the insights above can help you through better and more positive days. That way, those frowns and frustrations can be consistently turned into cheerful and loving smiles.