I wanted to share my thoughts with you on motherhood. My belief is that mothers deserve to own their health, to put their health above all others so they can actually love with all their vitality.
I Have A Firm Belief…Mothers leave the biggest contribution to legacy on this planet.
During my childhood, it was common for mothers to give so much that they themselves actually started to end up sick.
I Want Mothers To Put Themselves First!
I want you to see how important you are in your children’s lives, in your partner’s eyes, in your grandchildren’s, in your parents’ eyes…
And realize that if you ignore your health by giving too much, everyone gets affected.
Women are the shapers of the family, the shapers of the next generation and you need to do it from a place of power: physically, emotionally, and spiritually.
If you aren’t in pain, if you are full of energy, the default is love!
There’s One Thing That Appears to Be Going Against My Belief: A mother’s worth
Too many mothers don’t believe that by just being on this planet, they are inherently amazing, powerful and worth it.
That they deserve love, joy, and play.
Because they think others are worth more than them. (Their kids especially.)
And so they pour all their time, energy, and resources into kids, jobs and spouses.
And the life slowly fades from them.
I could be wrong, but I have struggled with low self-worth and I feel like I can see that pattern because of it.
If you don’t feel like you’re worthy, you’ll push away everything.
Health. Love. Money. Fun. Sex (yes, I went there!).
In result, you will draw in what you think you are worthy of, which can be any number of unhealthy things: disease, low energy, struggle, abuse, and loneliness.
It’s just a universal law, honestly.
Your worth = what you draw into your life.
And my theory is that if I can get mothers to stop putting everyone else on a pedestal, to realize their own worth, just how amazingly important they are, how kind and special they are, that they just might stop over-giving to everyone else and start giving back to themselves.
Moms need to take some time to renew, rejuvenate and heal yourself!
This was an interesting blog post. Being a mother of 7 I really didn’t have much time for myself when they were all at home. I also had a huge vegetable garden to tend to. I did put my children first and enjoyed every minute of it. I don’t feel I was hard done by and they certainly kept me fit. 🙂 Now they are all happy adults and I do have time for myself.
Hi Elizabeth!
Wow! 7 kids! You obviously found a way to keep motherhood positive and I`m sure you are a source of inspiration to many!
I think we do this on ourselves…we think we have to do all these things in order to be the perfect “tv mom”. Whats portrayed on tv is not real, just like models in magazines are “fake” with all the photoshop etc (yes some people are thin, but very few women fit that standard that mags think we should be) …. so the laundry doesn’t get folded every single time, your hair is a mess and you don’t look like you spent 2 hrs on it…its fine!! Everyone needs to stop for 10 min and just sit back and relax and BREATHE
I think this too is a balancing act…learning how to value yourself enough to take care of yourself, while still meeting the needs of those who depend on you.
I love this post. Mothers are amazing and should neglect themselves like so many do.
I think you need to balance your life so you can still take care of yourself and raise your beautiful children.