My daughter has the fortune (or misfortune depending on perspective) of having her birthday about a week before Christmas. So, she more or less spends the month of December opening birthday and/or Christmas gifts from well-meaning relatives and friends.
However, that puts this busy mom in a dilemma. Do I write a thank you card for each gift she receives? Or can one thank you card to a generous person who gave her both Birthday and Christmas gifts suffice? While I am teaching my daughter about showing gratitude, do we write a thank you card to Santa too???
In the age of texting and Facebook status updates, do people even care to receive handwritten thank you cards in the mail anymore? I, for example, am a bit hurt if I don’t receive a thank you card for something more formal, such as an expensive gift for a bridal or baby shower, but thank you cards for gifts given at a child’s large birthday party seem rare, and I don’t really question not receiving one.
Where does the line get drawn? Do I continue doing all of Mary’s thank you cards until she can write her own? I would hope that while she’s growing up, I’d be able to instill some of these old fashioned values in her, because I’ve been in situations where a young person is “forced” to write a thank you card to me – and those aren’t as nice to receive.
While we’re on the topic of what is an appropriate way to note gratitude for the thoughtfulness of others. I have another question…
How can I delicately tell friends and relatives (some who give her gifts throughout the year for no specific occasion) that Mary doesn’t need anything and we’d rather they save their money for themselves? After Christmas, my husband made the comment that our house wasn’t “big enough” for all the stuff in it. That didn’t sit well with me. So, I just spent three days clearing Mary’s playroom and our basement storage room to organize what should be saved, passed on, donated to charity or sold. This resulted in our house looking like it was picked up and turned over for those three days while I moved things around– but we’re back to normal now.
As you all know, my husband and I are still undecided on when (or if) to have a second child (I wrote about it here: https://ottawamommyclub.ca/almost-2-years-now/), so we only kept a small amount of baby clothes and equipment. But overall, I feel better that our house doesn’t seem to be bursting at the seams with Mary’s clothes and toys.
Now that the major project is complete and I found several packs of thank you cards in my basement storage room. I better get going, as I have a few cards to write to loved ones…