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Mom, I Want to Purchase My First Bra!

The excitement of purchasing your daughter’s first bra! It’s certainly a milestone for all girls and, with the right tips to buy bras for tweens, it can be a fun part of puberty.

When I was a tween there certainly weren’t too many bra choices. You had to choose between white and beige, so not much creativity back then. Nowadays you can purchase them at brand name stores and also at most girls fashion stores. They come in a variety of colours and patterns from trainer bra, sports bra, to soft cup bra. It’s an experience that your daughter is likely to remember forever, so make it a fun shopping day just daughter and mom with a lunch or dinner!

First Bra Shopping

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Colourful bras

When do you buy the first bra

So how do you know when your daughter actually needs to start wearing a bra? The proper age to purchase her first bra is normally between 9 and 13 years old and will depend on her own body development as some girls might have their first period at a younger age. There is also the peer pressure to purchase a bra because her friends have one. I think it’s best to go with the flow of things, and if she asks for it as a tween, then she is mentally ready to wear one.

The trainer bra

The trainer bras is made of a soft lightweight fabric with no padding and easy to pullover with no hooks and closures, so it’s ideal for breasts just starting to develop. A good indication that your daughter is ready to wear a bra is if she starts to a wear tank top or a cami under her clothes, or layers of clothing, as she is no longer comfortable showing her body. If your daughter prefers not to be fitted in a store, you can make the experience more comfortable by measuring yourself at home and ordering online.

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Lingerie retail store

Choose a store

When I went bra shopping with my daughter, she already knew where she wanted to go because her friends had bought a bra at that store already. I didn’t mind since it was a girl’s fashion store and knew she would be comfortable trying on a bra and talking about the ones she would like to purchase. To me that’s what was more important at the time than shopping at a specialty bra store. They carried assortments of different types of bras for tweens.

How to choose a bra

As a rule of thumb, comfort should be the most important factor in choosing a bra by making sure it’s a well fitted, not too tight or too big. As my daughter got older, we shopped at specialty bra stores where she could get fitted properly by a professional staff for her shape and size. If a first bra doesn’t fit right, then it isn’t doing its job and will be uncomfortable. Also when breasts develop they need to be supported so that they can grow into their proper shape and position, therefore getting a bra fitted professionally is best. If you imply the importance of comfort, your daughter will let you know when the bras are getting too small and time to take her to be properly fitted again.

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Mom, I Want to Purchase My First Bra!

Finally, breast development is one of the first signs of puberty and that your little girl is definitely growing up! It can be a sad time for moms or even harder times for dads…. Remember that her being comfortable with the process is the most important factor. If you daughter is not comfortable purchasing her first bra in a store, you can order online instead.

Again, it’s so important to let her know that this stage of puberty is normal, to accept her changing body, and embrace becoming a young woman!

How was your experience shopping for your first bra? Comment below.

Lyne Proulx
Lyne Proulxhttps://ottawamommyclub.ca/
Lyne Proulx is a Certified WEBB Bodywork Pet Practitioner, Certified Infant Massage Instructor (CIMI), Certified Professional Wedding Consultant, and an Event Planner. She loves all things Disney and is an avid teaholic and chocoholic. She coordinated the Annual Infant Information Day/Early Years Expo for the City of Ottawa for 8 years. She was the Queen B of the BConnected Conference, Canada's Digital Influencer and social media Conference in Ottawa and Toronto. She was also the co-chair of the Navan for Kraft Hockeyville 2009-2011 committee that organized five community events within 6 months, and helped Navan reach the top 10 finalists in Canada. In April 2011, she received the City of Ottawa Mayor's City Builder Award.

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  1. Having 4 daughters I know well this period of change. I think having their first bra is also a sign of their maturity to the girls and they also want to join their friends who wear bras. It’s really a challenging time for girls as their bodies alter and change preparing them for adulthood. It’s very important that these changes are talked about and explained to them.

  2. I love that there are so many choices available for them to pick from now a days. Wanting one is definitely a sign of maturity and a good time for Mom & Daughter to share the experience together.

  3. These changes should be talked about openly with your daughters.I remember mt daughters first she picked a pink one with pretty flowers

  4. My first shopping trip for bras in 15 years,went last night with my granddaughter.Wow there are just so many to choose from.It was a fun evening.

  5. Congratulations you made it through. I can’t imagine but I remember buying my first bra. It’s hard it was to find great support and it had to look pretty. I don’t know why since it’s under my clothes.


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