The excitement of purchasing your daughter’s first bra! It’s certainly a milestone for all girls and, with the right tips to buy bras for tweens, it can be a fun part of puberty.
When I was a tween there certainly weren’t too many bra choices. You had to choose between white and beige, so not much creativity back then. Nowadays you can purchase them at brand name stores and also at most girls fashion stores. They come in a variety of colours and patterns from trainer bra, sports bra, to soft cup bra. It’s an experience that your daughter is likely to remember forever, so make it a fun shopping day just daughter and mom with a lunch or dinner!
First Bra Shopping
When do you buy the first bra
So how do you know when your daughter actually needs to start wearing a bra? The proper age to purchase her first bra is normally between 9 and 13 years old and will depend on her own body development as some girls might have their first period at a younger age. There is also the peer pressure to purchase a bra because her friends have one. I think it’s best to go with the flow of things, and if she asks for it as a tween, then she is mentally ready to wear one.
The trainer bra
The trainer bras is made of a soft lightweight fabric with no padding and easy to pullover with no hooks and closures, so it’s ideal for breasts just starting to develop. A good indication that your daughter is ready to wear a bra is if she starts to a wear tank top or a cami under her clothes, or layers of clothing, as she is no longer comfortable showing her body. If your daughter prefers not to be fitted in a store, you can make the experience more comfortable by measuring yourself at home and ordering online.
Choose a store
When I went bra shopping with my daughter, she already knew where she wanted to go because her friends had bought a bra at that store already. I didn’t mind since it was a girl’s fashion store and knew she would be comfortable trying on a bra and talking about the ones she would like to purchase. To me that’s what was more important at the time than shopping at a specialty bra store. They carried assortments of different types of bras for tweens.
How to choose a bra
As a rule of thumb, comfort should be the most important factor in choosing a bra by making sure it’s a well fitted, not too tight or too big. As my daughter got older, we shopped at specialty bra stores where she could get fitted properly by a professional staff for her shape and size. If a first bra doesn’t fit right, then it isn’t doing its job and will be uncomfortable. Also when breasts develop they need to be supported so that they can grow into their proper shape and position, therefore getting a bra fitted professionally is best. If you imply the importance of comfort, your daughter will let you know when the bras are getting too small and time to take her to be properly fitted again.
Finally, breast development is one of the first signs of puberty and that your little girl is definitely growing up! It can be a sad time for moms or even harder times for dads…. Remember that her being comfortable with the process is the most important factor. If you daughter is not comfortable purchasing her first bra in a store, you can order online instead.
Again, it’s so important to let her know that this stage of puberty is normal, to accept her changing body, and embrace becoming a young woman!