Valentine’s Day is a marked, socially acceptable celebration of the mating rituals of the human species. Have you ever wondered what type of Valentine are you? This year, Valentine’s Day got my thinking about this? You can almost categorize personality types by feelings and attitudes toward Valentine’s Day.
People, unlike animals, are generally, and at least superficially, subtle in regard to their pro-creative urges. We use words and kind gestures as opposed to odd-sounding, pathetic calls for attention and the satisfaction of our deep-seated urges. Like it or not, Valentine’s Day is here to stay.
How Meaningful is Valentine’s Day?
In general, I go for deep, meaningful conversations and words of affirmation to “get my strokes”. If I only got that on Valentine’s Day from someone who wanted to have a lasting relationship with me, I would be hard pressed to stay engaged in terms of affection.
If I were a person who needed gifts to keep my love alive, one day a year would not cut it either. What if it was a simple favour that the appetites of my desire and that was displayed only on a prescribed occasion? I would begin to suspect that the action was more hormone based than heartfelt.
And if I were deeply moved by having someone want to spend a great deal of time with me, one day is only one day, no matter how long it lasts. Valentine’s Day, to me, is not as important as the culmination of the rest of the days of the year.
How I Spend My Valentine
However, Valentine’s Day is here to stay, and I am in for a bit of excitement and emotional nurturing on other people’s terms. I love going out to eat. When I go out to eat with someone, we usually have conversation and there is often mutual regard shown for the people around the table. Why should I miss out on this on one day of the year just because it was someone else’s idea? I don’t mind doing things that are someone else’s idea. I am a co-operative sort. Take me out to eat or lose me forever!
Do not make it look like it is an obligation, however. Obligation takes all of the romance out of a gesture. Valentine’s Day is a party, Sweetheart! You can’t just ignore the invitation! It was your parent’s idea to give you a birthday. Are you going to pass on the present, cake and ice cream? I don’t think so.
You know, if you ever watched the Nature Channel, you would notice that mating rituals are part of the fun. Valentine’s Day…be there or be square! What do you have to lose?
As Valentine’s Day approaches, it is interesting to people watch, observing the various reactions and intentions in regard to this special love day.
Here are some different types of Valentines! Which one are you?
Just another love day
These valentines are individuals who love everyone and have strong feelings about behaviour being motivated by love all the time, not just on Valentine’s Day. They might even use the opportunity to preach their philosophy of not reserving loving feelings for one exclusively dedicated holiday. You are apt to receive a box of chocolates or a bouquet of flowers accompanied by a verbal disclaimer from these love bugs.
For lovers only
These people feel that Valentine’s Day is for lovers to acknowledge one another in a special way. If they are unattached, or currently not in a relationship, they will feel gloomy and deprived about not being someone’s special valentine.
Spread the cheer
Valentine’s Day is the perfect occasion for these social beings, who love to make others happy, and will use any excuse to give gifts and celebrate. These are the individuals who deck themselves out in red and white and throw lavish valentine parties, inviting everyone they know and love.
The Valentine Grinch
Some people reject the idea of Valentine’s day. They perceive the occasion as an opportunity for commercial vendors to cash in on the emotions of the less wise. These scrooge-like personalities will refuse to participate in lining the pockets of corporate America by purchasing chocolates or flowers. They attach a political agenda to the day.
The majority of people fall into this category. They enjoy the day and take advantage of the opportunity to express their deep feelings of affection and appreciation to their loved ones. Their children will wake up to gifts and candy, their spouses will be lavished with attention and presents, they will spread their valentine greetings to all they encounter.
These congenial valentines actually embrace the commercial aspects of the occasion, spending for special gifts, foods, desserts, flowers, candy, dinners out and whatever else they envision as appropriate methods of expressing love.
Figuring out what type of valentine you are, is not as important as determining what type of valentine category your significant others fall into, since Valentine’s Day is all about about making others happy.