Tween and Teenage Girls’ Mood Swings: 5 Tips for Parents

Tween and Teenage Girls’ Mood Swings: 5 Tips for Parents

I am one of those lucky moms that her daughter is not a drama queen nor did she have too many mood swings during puberty. She is just like me at her age, but don’t tell her that! Don’t ask me why this part of puberty did not faze the both of us as much as other teens. I really wish I had a miracle answer to give you; however, I am living these mood swings with my 15 year old son and enjoying the fluctuation of his testosterone hormones, but that’s a totally different story all together!

Of course I still read on the subject of teen girl’s mood swings when she was in her tween, so I would be prepared for the outburst of emotions. Thinking back to my high school years also helped remember the times when my friends would be totally stressed out, very moody, irritable, and could snap at you at one moment and hug you the next minute.

Tween and Teenage Girls’ Mood Swings: 5 Tips for Parents
At my daughter’s high school graduation

I would like to share 5 tips that I think will definitely help you address mood swings in tween and teenage girls.

1. Exercise

Encourage your daughter to exercise on a regular basis. When you exercise, your body produces more beta-endorphine, a hormone that actually controls stress and improves mood. Make it a family time and head out to the local swimming pool, go for a bike ride, take fitness or yoga classes, or just a jog around the block.

2.  Sleep

Make sure she is getting enough sleep. When someone is too tired, it can lead to more irritability and mood swings. The National Sleep Foundation mentions that:

Teens need about 9 1/4 hours of sleep each night to function best (for some, 8 1/2 hours is enough). Most teens do not get enough sleep — one study found that only 15% reported sleeping 8 1/2 hours on school nights.

They also stipulate that it’s important to:

  • Establish a bed and wake-time and stick to it, coming as close as you can on the weekends. A consistent sleep schedule will help you feel less tired since it allows your body to get in sync with its natural patterns. You will find that it’s easier to fall asleep at bedtime with this type of routine.

  • Don’t eat, drink, or exercise within a few hours of your bedtime. Don’t leave your homework for the last minute. Try to avoid the TV, computer, and telephone in the hour before you go to bed. Stick to quiet, calm activities, and you’ll fall asleep much more easily!

3. Hormones

Hormonal changes are partially to blame for mood swings and irritability, but it should not be a valid reason for your daughter to lose it and be disrespectful. Yes, it’s understandable that adolescence is a time of physical, intellectual, emotional, and social changes that build the bridge between childhood and adulthood. During this time, it’s important to teach your teenage daughter to control her actions and words as she cannot control her mood.

She has the right to feel sad, angry, and even lonely, but there is a proper way to express her feelings to her surroundings and this is the time for you as a parent to help her cope with her emotions, anguish, and anxieties. Having her count to 10 before she outbursts is a good start by settling down for a few moments, especially if she’s feeling angry or irritable.

4. Activities

Get her involved in some activities or project where she can get creative like art, dance, painting, music, or simply by writing a journal or diary thus to help her express her feelings and organize her thoughts.

5. Could be more than just mood swings

You know your daughter more than anyone else, therefore when she is moody or feel irritable you can detect that’s it’s due to being a teenage girl. If she seems not to be herself at all, not showing a care for anything or anyone, and just not enjoying life or dealing with family and friends, this could mean more than just mood swings and more like depression. If you are concerned with your daughter’s health and mental state, don’t hesitate to contact your family doctor for a throughout evaluation to diagnostic depression.

As parents, we have to remember that the puberty is not an easy stage of life for our daughters, so we should take the time to actually step into their shoes. Since babies aren’t born with their very own manual (how that would make a parent’s life easier), it takes a lot of patience, understanding and most of all love to raise a child and even more a teenager.

Do you have any other tips to offer parents?

How did you manage your mood swings when you were a teenager?

Although this post has been generously sponsored by Always, the opinions and language are all my own, and in no way do they reflect Always.

Lyne is a Certified Infant Massage Instructor (CIMI), Certified Professional Wedding Consultant, and an Event Planner. It has always been her dream to create a website dedicated just for Moms since her children were young. Thus, after 10 years, she finally accomplished it, and the Ottawa Mommy Club was born in May 2011. She loves all things Disney and is an avid chocoholic. She was also the Queen B of the BConnected Conference, Canada's Digital Influencer and social media Conference in Ottawa and Toronto.She coordinated the Annual Infant Information Day/Early Years Expo for the City of Ottawa for 8 years. She was also the co-chair of the Navan for Kraft Hockeyville 2009-2011 committee that organized five community events within 6 months, and helped Navan reach the top 10 finalists in Canada. In April 2011, she received the City of Ottawa Mayor's City Builder Award.

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  1. All great tips, the tween and teenage stage can be a challenge when it comes to moods but we just have to be patient and support our kids while they are dealing with all the changes that are causing the majority of these moods!

  2. All of these are great tips! I’d add that as hard as it is, a good tip is to remind yourself not to take their mood swings personally!

  3. I really appreciate these tips. My nine year-old girls are challenging these days and I am going to look at all these aspects of their lives to see if we need to make some changes for the better :).

  4. Hi Lyne! I just finished the tween years, and have just started the teen years. My eldest is not a drama queen, either. She’s very calm, a total 180 degree turn form what I was like! These tips were great! I guess, if I had any other tips would be to let your daughter know that you are here to listen, and to help, not solve their problems for them. Sometimes, my daughter needs an ear or advice to help her moodiness (the few times she was moody). Thanks for these tips!

  5. These are all great tips! I still get mood swing as an adult( The diference is I can’t control it) and it’s usually because I didn’t sleep well.


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