The breakdown of a long-term relationship is among the most devastating realities that a lot of people have to go through. And this holds true in Canada, the US, and even the rest of the world. While it’s not necessarily bad, a breakup is still a significant event that triggers strong emotional reactions from those involved (the partners themselves) and those who are just caught in the circumstance (their children).
But there are steps that the partners can take to keep the breakup as easy as possible for their kids. In this article, some of these steps are presented.
Treat the former partner with dignity, even in their absence
More often than not, the kids of a separating couple are emotionally attached to both parents. Because of this, bad-mouthing the former partner in their absence is not going to help. This will only increase the stress in an already tense situation, and it might even make it worse.
In some cases, the incessant attacks of one parent on another can result in kids feeling guilty about still loving the parent who is continually loathed by the one that they live with. It will be for the best if both partners treat each other with respect even if they are not in each other’s presence. This sends the idea that the kids do not have to choose between the two, and that they still have the support of both parents, especially when times get rough.
Get good divorce lawyers
Before a divorce is finalized, details have to be ironed out. The division of any conjugal properties must be talked about thoroughly and an agreement has to be reached. The schedule of child visits has to be finalized as well. Some couples might find it too difficult to talk about these things with each other. Oftentimes, these couples end up hurting each other in the process.
In such cases, it’s best if both partners decide to just get good family lawyers and let them do the talking. This way, they are spared from the emotional turmoil that prolonged exposure to the former partner can bring.
Now what makes a good family lawyer? Aside from having a strong academic background, a good family law expert has years of experience under their belt. Look for a family lawyer in your area, or ask for recommendations from friends and family.
Be in the company of supportive people
No one can deny the importance of social support in day-to-day life. Friends and family are just the people that effectively lessen the impact of distressing events such as breakups. Because of this, it’s important for the partners to take care of themselves by accepting the support of friends and family members.
While it’s true that the unfolding of events is difficult for the children, the partners also have to honestly acknowledge that the whole process is difficult for them too. It’s not bad to seek help and assistance. Doing so is not a sign of weakness, it’s a natural part of being human. And it’s important to pay attention to it, so that there won’t be pent up resentment that can eventually affect them being parents to their children.
It is impossible to fully shield the kids from the impact of a divorce, but making the impact less felt by the kids is attainable. Hoping these specific steps will help you!