To Santa, or Not to Santa?

| December 2, 2014 | 18 Comments

Santa is everywhere. He shows up earlier every year. The whole Christmas decor and shopping mayhem used to begin on December 1. Then it started at American Thanksgiving (thanks, Franklin D Roosevelt). It slowly creeped up to Canadian Thanksgiving. A few years ago all the Santas and Jingle Bells began to appear on November 1. This year, I spotted Christmas stuff in the stores while I was shopping for a Halloween costume.

Months of having Christmas in our faces makes it very difficult to not do the Santa thing with the children. Unless religious or cultural traditions are full of celebrations and festivities which don’t leave any room for Santa, there is pressure to Santa. I know parents whose childhood outside of Canada didn’t include Christmas, and they have given in to Santa with their children. As my youngest daughter grows up, I have to ask myself again: To Santa, or Not to Santa?

As far as I can tell, she is still all-in on the Santa thing. She made an off-hand comment recently that while this is a busy time of year for the elves, they work all year long. This child has a tremendous sense of reason and can now google with the best of them, but she still has stars in her eyes when it comes to the idea that a jolly elf with magical reindeer will bring her presents at Christmas.

I am afraid that telling her the truth will break her heart, and she will forever doubt anything I tell her. I think waiting for her to mature and accept reality in her own time is the best approach. Her sisters have been firmly instructed to keep up appearances. Sometimes I have to gently correct them: “You mean when *SANTA* put that nail polish in your stocking last year.”

She is 9 years old this Christmas. I am thinking that this will be the last year of Santa. At least until I have grandchildren, and see the cycle start all over again. By then I imagine I will have a whole new perspective on whether to Santa or not.

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Rebecca left her corporate cubicle to start Concierge Home Services, which helps makes lives better for busy homeowners by providing house cleaning, pet sitting, and home check services. Her company now has 6 locations in 3 cities, and ready for more franchisees. Rebecca practises kundalini yoga every morning, loves reading, learning, and quality time with her 2 daughters and baby grandson.

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  1. Chandra Christine O'Connor says:

    when my oldest was around 7 someone told her there wasnt a tooth fairy and I told her the truth. but then she asked me if there was a Santa, I said yes, she said that made her happy her heart was hurting thinking about it. let them figure it out on their own they always go out of it way too fast as it is.

  2. Lian says:

    This was a great post, Rebecca! I feel the same way. I waited until my eldest daughter told me she no longer believed in Santa. She goes along with “Santa” with her two younger siblings, though, and keeps the “magic” alive for them.

    As for Christmas dominating more of the calendar every year, I believe Hallmark has Christmas ornaments out in July for their new collections, and I also saw other stores have their seasonal aisle stocked with Christmas items as early as August! I love Christmas,but it is getting a bit crazy.

  3. Elizabeth Matthiesen says:

    I think most children want to believe in Santa, he’s something magical. A lot of children find out when they go to day care/Kindergarten or school that Santa is make-believe and they don’t want to believe he’s not real. I remember my parents telling me and my twin sister that our brother once woke up and sneaked up on Santa – that’s the year he didn’t get any presents. How he managed to keep a straight face I’ll never know 🙂

    • Rebecca Page says:

      Wow your brother must have had fun doing that. Our 2 oldest daughters once called Mrs Claus (it was actually me) to “tell” on the little one, in order to leverage better behaviour. How we didn’t all fall apart with laughter I’ll never know!

  4. Pam says:

    my son came to me at five years old and asked me why Santa didn’t like him because he was a good boy but didn’t receive many presents. This broke my heart. I decided to right then and there tell him the truth. I didn’t want him feeling less because we didn’t have a lot of money. it was a good decision and he didn’t wreck it for others

  5. JaimeeM says:

    I wasnt going to do santa with my son, but then he started school. And now he wants to believe in him. So Ill play along, its harmless and fun 🙂

  6. Stephanie LaPlante says:

    Eventually they will ask the question. It’s more fun to believe. I pretended for my siblings as long as I could.

  7. Cheryl (@loucheryl) says:

    My boys are still so young that they believe there is a Santa. I don’t want to think of the day when they don’t believe.

  8. Lisa VanBekkum says:

    My daughter is 13 years old and still believes in the magic of Santa!!! I am not sure if she ‘knows” the truth or not but I would like her to believe as long as she wants to believe. You are only young once and part of being a child is enjoying all the innocence and magic of the holidays. I would never want to take that away from her. To Santa!!!! They grow up way to fast and as an adult the holidays just aren’t the same as when we were kids with that magical twinkle in their eyes. Santa for life!!!!

  9. Victoria Ess says:

    Great thought-provoking question. My parents NEVER did the Santa thing with me so I never really put so much thought into it.

  10. kathy downey says:

    I truly enjoyed the read

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