Super Dad to Super Dud

| February 25, 2013 | 4 Comments


The feeling of knowing that one day I will go from Super Dad to Super Dud gives me the heebie-jeebies.  We all know as parents one day our kid will no longer need us to do everything for them. I love coming home from work and B rushing to the door to give me a big hug after a long day at work.  Nothing washes my work related frustrations  faster than my little man’s “DADDEEEEE”.  I know deep down inside that I need to soak it up as much as I can because one day it’s going to turn into fighting for hugs and kisses, door slamming,  and maybe the odd “I hate you”.

In their early Childhood years, you are their idol, they look up to you and copy everything you do – I am slowly learning this can be dangerous with me around. Then almost like someone stabbing you with knife of kryptonite, you are no longer their “Super Dad”…you now are a “Super Dud”.  How did it all change so quickly?

With B becoming more and more independent this fear of mine is becoming a reality.  My little baby that once depended on me for everything is starting to push me away so that he can do it himself.  I know he is still very much dependant on us as parents as he still struggles with some of the simplest things like knowing the right amount food that fits in his mouth, that the dog dish isn’t a mini sink to wash your hands or that the plunger isn’t a hockey stick but I can’t help but thinking about it.

I realize I am probably over reacting as he’s only 1.5 years old, but I have noticed a huge change in his lack of “dependence” with my wife and I recently and it got me really thinking.  I don’t want to wait 20 plus years for him to realize that I am actually the knower of all, the sultan of solutions, the giver of all information, the…you get my point. I mean I am still waiting for my wife to start coming around and even after about 10 years there is no sign of that happening any time soon.

If there is one thing that I can take from the continued blows of Kryponite would be that my “big guy” is turning into just that…a BIG Guy. And that is truly amazing!!

When did you start going from “Super Dad” to “Super Dud”?


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  1. Julie says:

    I remember a short time ago when my hubs was snubbed.. I was even snubbed too! It definitely hurt and the kids were growing up and didn’t want me to do everything for them. We even got the cold shoulder with cuddles. It will pass amd change. Just wait and see. Now I am back to being their number 1 but I also seethem doing so much things independently and they have the confidence to do it. Everything will be fine 🙂

  2. william saylor says:

    I have already went from super dad to stupid dad trust me it will come.

  3. kathy downey says:

    lol you can laugh at it later but at the time it hurts.poor hubby he was super dad,stupid dad,know it all dad,mean dad.thank goodness they are grown with families and hes back to super dad

  4. Elizabeth Matthiesen says:

    It’s all just a part of growing up and becoming independent, this phase comes and goes. Imagine if they hung on our every word, never made a decision on their own, always needed our reassurance, never trusted themselves to try something new – now that would be really hard. It’s difficult to let go but you have to to let them grow up into responsible adults.

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