Gifting Stress

| December 17, 2014 | 18 Comments

This is the time of year for gifting stress. There is the actual stress of shopping – traffic, parking lots, crowds, lineups. I dislike shopping malls, and crowds make me crazy, so my ideal gift is purchased online and delivered to my door. There is also the stress of deciding what to buy for whom and who to give to.

There is etiquette and manners and sincere appreciation and the love of giving. There is also pettiness and politics. Does one gift the mother of the child who has been bullying your child at school? What about that friend you’ve fallen out of touch with, who hasn’t responded to your last few invitations to meet? In the interest of goodwill and good karma, it is easy to “rise above it” (which my mother always told me to do) and gift anyway. But unless there was a recent lottery winning, most of us have a holiday budget, so gifting more people each year simply isn’t possible.

Where do you draw the line? Do we still gift the postal delivery person, when they don’t come to our door anymore? If we gift the person who delivers mail, do we also gift the guys on the garbage and recycling trucks? I appreciate that there are many hard working people who touch my life in different ways, and it’s the time of year for giving – but where does it end? Do I gift every bus driver my daughter sees on public transit each day?

Common sense dictates that we gift those we have a meaningful relationship with, and donate to charitable causes for the greater good of our community. With that guideline, I tend to focus on people in my business and family. I spend weeks on selecting, ordering, and arranging delivery of gifts for our clients, my staff, franchise partners, vendors, oh, and my three daughters. I start in October, and am done by the first week of December. But it seems that the night before the last day of school is spent in sweaty lineups to get gifts for teachers and the crossing guard we’ve known for years. Seems like even with the best of intentions and months of planning, gifting stress is unavoidable.



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Rebecca left her corporate cubicle to start Concierge Home Services, which helps makes lives better for busy homeowners by providing house cleaning, pet sitting, and home check services. Her company now has 6 locations in 3 cities, and ready for more franchisees. Rebecca practises kundalini yoga every morning, loves reading, learning, and quality time with her 2 daughters and baby grandson.

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  1. Cheryl says:

    It is a stressful time and knowing who to give to and not to give too does add to it!!! My kids hate there school bus driver but I being a mean mother make them give her a gift??!! Sometimes I wonder why?? I guess it could always be worse!!

    • Rebecca Page says:

      It is certainly an opportunity to teach manners and etiquette. The tricky part is balancing it all without stressing out. It is supposed to be a season of joy, not stress!

  2. JaimeeM says:

    I hate going out and shopping, online is where its at for me too.

  3. Elizabeth Matthiesen says:

    I seem to find it more and more difficult each year, of course money is an awful lot tighter but everything seems to cost so much more. I nearly fainted at the post office – I posted 20 cards internationally and it cost me $50!! I couldn’t believe it, I could be thankful that I wasn’t sending parcels that would have been catastrophic.

  4. Victoria Ess says:

    Oh I’m struggling with these decisions too! It’s especially hard when you either don’t gift to anyone in a “group” of people or have to gift to all of them!

  5. KD says:

    Gifting can bring a lot of stress. I am reminded of the scene from The Big Bang Theory where Sheldon buys a huge number of presents for Penny so that he can bring out an item with a similar monetary value to what she just brought!

  6. kathy downey says:

    I do not shop in December for gift.I try to shop over the year.I like December month to be stress free.

  7. Stephanie LaPlante says:

    I’ve learned a lot this year since everything has been last minute for me. Shop online, like you said. lol

  8. Brenda A says:

    I am a confessed over organizer with gifts. We’re talking year round shopper and closet hider. Most often it works out nicely as I only buy gifts that I am certain the receiver will still love in 6 months, 9 months etc when I actually give it to them.

    I had a tricky gift recently: 6 Brownies leaders! I really wanted to show them all how much I appreciate their involvement, but 6 women! I wanted to buy a small token and found little bread dipper spice kits. Consumable and easy.

  9. Jenny says:

    I get so stressed out over gifting so I do what I can to minimize that by shopping early!

  10. loriag says:

    I keep gift giving closer to home and to charities we support.

  11. kathy downey says:

    This year i done most of my shpping online

  12. Debbie White Beattie says:

    For my family we give gifts to the kids and then the extended family put money together from everyone and we pick a family from the Salvation Army Christmas drive and we provide presents and food for that family. It’s a way of giving back and appreciating everything we have.

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