“Don’t Mess With An Angry Pregnant Mother!”

| March 5, 2014 | 6 Comments

I bet you are asking yourself what the title of this blog could possibly mean. Well, it will quickly become apparent to you. Most women automatically think that self defense is all about kneeing some bad guy in the groin and watching him fall to the ground. Unfortunately, that is a huge misconception that people make when it comes to self defense. I am not going to talk about physical self defense in this blog. What else could I talk about in regards to self defense? Before violence occurs, there are most often many warning signs of impending danger. One’s intuition will usually make them aware of it, and it is imperative to always trust your intuition, even at the risk of offending someone, or the fear of being wrong and appearing foolish. But, just as important as trusting your intuition, and being aware of your surroundings, is having the proper mindset to defend yourself.

Most women aren’t sure they could actually strike another person, potentially causing serious harm, even if they are in the face of potential violence. Often, thoughts like, “I am not a violent person, I don’t believe in striking another person”, or “I can’t hit them unless they have attacked me, can I?” will come to mind. There are many reasons that are perfectly logical why you have the right to defend yourself, but it is not until you tap into your motherly instincts that the killer instinct will come out. If you ask a woman, or man, “If you had to choose between being attacked by an average, non-intimidating guy, or the stereotypical, big bad biker who is 6’3” tall with scars, tattoos, very muscular, and threatening looking, who would you rather choose to attack you?” Inevitably women will say the non-threatening guy because their immediate thoughts are that the big bad looking guy must be much tougher than the non-threatening man. In the end, no one can decide who they might have to defend themselves against. BUT, what if the attacker has successfully sexually assaulted dozens of women, and in some cases, even murdered them? Again, most would say they would try, or some will say why bother, and some saying they definitely would. There is a wide arrange of possible thoughts or responses. 

BUT, are you a mother to a daughter or son?

“What if you walked in the room and saw that same guy sexually assaulting your child?”

Without any hesitation wouldn’t you be thinking, “I will rip his face off”, or “I will kill him”, or many other colourful phrases? But isn’t this a very different way of thinking than when you were just thinking a moment ago about defending yourself? If a mother can tie the violence to possibly harming their child, the switch is turned on, and you immediately have the proper mindset to defend yourself.

This is why I say,

There is nothing scarier than, “An Angry Pregnant Mother”, because she will do whatever is necessary to protect her loved ones without a moment’s hesitation. A woman in this situation very often, doesn’t even need any physical self defense training to know what to do. It will be their will to protect their child that will do the job. If you really want to program this mindset even further, imagine not being able to see your daughter or son grow up? This should stir up the emotion and mindset to defend yourself. There is no stronger emotional tie to make than to your family. If you don’t have children, you can still develop this mindset to defend yourself by thinking about who, or what is extremely important to you in your life. For some, it may be a strong tie to their pets, or even material things that can bring out this will to protect and fight if necessary.

Often, facing violence is one of the biggest fear anyone has. In the end, you have so much to fight for, so

“You must give yourself permission to do whatever is necessary to get home safely to your family”

2014-01-18 11.09.30Chris Roberts is the Managing Director of SAFE International.  SAFE International is a mobile self defense company based in Ontario, Canada.  Chris and his team  have taught more than 180,000 women self defense with their women’s self defense parties which have been featured on Global TV, as well as teaching 13,000 high school students each year across the province.  For more info on their courses/company, please visit www.safeinternational.biz or their main blog at www.selfdefensecanada.info


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  1. Anna W says:

    I love this article! I am a mother of three and even thinking about someone hurting my children I get very upset and think of ways of defending and fighting off the attacker. My partner loves teaching me self defense and ways to fight. And I am glad he does!

  2. kathy downey says:

    I really enjoyed this article, my children are adults now. These days I worry about the grandkids.Seems life was safer when my kids were young !

  3. kathy downey says:

    My daughter who is expecting her first come fall also enjoyed this post/

  4. JaimeeM says:

    A very good post. Never mess with a mother.

  5. Vikki says:

    A line from American Horror Story:Coven corroborates this. It goes something like “the female is the most loyally aggressive”. We all know not to mess with a mama bear, but don’t mess with a mama horse either. They will chase the attacker and kill it. I have no problems going there when it comes to my children either.

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