A house can get easily messy in a very short while. The thing is m0m is expected to cook, clean, work and balance it all by herself. Well it takes more than one person to mess it up, so to give mom and dad a chance to recuperate and enjoy more time with their children, here are a few tips to lessen family discussions on house cleaning and shopping:
1. Allow each child a predetermine amount every week for chores – making beds in the morning, clean up bedroom, pick-up clothes and toys. Of course after determining what is appropriate for the child’s age. Ah, remembering to flush the toilet, this can be expected at all ages, since no one likes to find an unwanted gift in the bathroom. If chores are not completed, deduct a part of the allowance, after all fair is fair.
2. A pre-teen or teenager can contribute more chores, mow the grass, bring the trash out, prepare once a week on a predetermined day a meal, insisting not always a pizza or burgers. With age comes more freedom, instead or numerous squabbles about what and where to buy new clothes, again allow a specific monthly allowance for this purpose, this will instil for the parent a time to educate the older child, notion on how money works thus, giving the child permission to buy clothes of his or her choices, taking in consideration that their style may not be yours, as long as it is decent and respectable. But what if my child spends foolishly all the money. Good question, then he or she will continue wearing old clothes. After a few months of this, looking at other family members or friends who have made better choices with their money, things will change, if worst comes to worst, you go back to buying the clothes.
An important measure, try humour and turn everything into a game. Saturday mornings can be hectic at times, cleaning up the house, errands, why not put on good music, start a game on who does the best dusting, window car washing gets to choose where to have lunch? Play with your family, enjoy working together, so that parents can have more time to enjoy life. Remember, one day, your little ones will leave the nest, the house will be nice and quiet and you will then have all the time in the world to remember the havoc, chaos. Now, it will be you ,visiting your all grown up children, going through the same predicament as you did as parents. You will then play with your grand children; nap all you want, finding out that you do not need it so much, as you can finally sleep a full night without interruption.
Let me know how these tips have worked for you. You may find more ways to help other parents to cope, then share this with them.
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