Thanks to the Ottawa Mommy Club, I was one of the lucky ones to attend the pre-screening for the movie Bad Moms this week. Even though the story was laced with tons of humor, the message I came out with was, do less, be more.
We are busy, really busy. We are working hard, carpooling, running errands, organizing and preparing for the next day, staying up late, getting up early and always rushing to the next task. We achieve and create and build, and then we do it all over again the next day.
We are also loving and kindhearted and thrive for more. Unfortunately, our fast pace chase for more can leave us with less than enough energy to be as loving or compassionate as we would like to be. It can even leave us tired, uninspired and unproductive in reaching our goals at work and at home.
But here’s a thought. What if, instead of wanting more, we wanted less?
Some people think that you can either have peace of mind or you can spend your every waking minute climbing the corporate ladder.
Live like Mother Theresa or Martha Stewart.
I believe you don’t have to live at either extreme. You can slow it down and live it up. You can simplify and live a ‘’well-thy’’ life. A simpler life, one with more space and less noise is actually filled with unlimited joy and abundance.
How do I know? I was one of those people who was living without much purpose but always on the go.
Until life forced me to step back and re-evaluate my priorities. After finding myself at a crossroad regarding my career and my well-being, I started to question why I was doing what I was doing.
If you’re feeling unfulfilled and unsatisfied with either some or all aspects of your life, then here are some ways to help you simplify, slow down, and become more connected to your life.
It’s easy to live our life on auto-pilot and get caught up in the everyday hustle. Think about why you’re doing what you’re doing. What do you really want out of life?
Promotions are great and so is moving up the corporate ladder, but you can earn so much more money by simplifying your life and not spending frivolously.
You don’t have to quit your job overnight, but you do have to ask yourself if you can see yourself doing this kind of work for the rest of your life. You don’t have to start with the question of money and limitations. Don’t ask what you have to give up in order to do work that’s more in line with who you are.
Instead, start with figuring out how to make a difference, how to do more meaningful work and what makes you happy at your current job.
Begin the journey to more authentic living by questioning your purpose. Give yourself space so that your dreams can manifest in your life.
End the battle with belongings.
I know I personally love a good bargain, but do you find yourself mindlessly buying things without knowing why? Do you fill your closets with clothes and shoes that you discard after wearing them once or twice?
You can easily lose your inner balance and sense of purpose when your life is preoccupied with endless purchases. All these things can take up your mental and emotional space…and closet space 😉
The way I chose to deal with this was to question every purchase. Is it a need or a want? Another thing I did was take inventory of clothes and things I hadn’t used for the past 6 months and donated them. You will be surprise how much lighter you will feel afterwards.
Let go of emotional burdens.
This is a BIG one. Emotional baggage can take up space in your life. The path to emotional healing starts with your desire to come to terms with the emotions that occupy your life.
It also requires that you acknowledge your emotions and take responsibility for them. Journaling, counseling, therapy, or whatever works for you will help you acknowledge and come to terms with the heavy emotional weight in your life.
Healing also requires that you forgive and let go of lifelong resentments. It may ask for you to focus your attention on the present moment instead of allowing past pain and disappointments to govern your life.
You will open up more space and give yourself more breathing room by choosing to come to terms with your emotional burdens.
Prioritize life’s events.
Once you know what’s important in your life, you will find it easier to prioritize and say “no.” It will become easier to reduce your social commitments and energy-draining activities.
While you care about many things in this world, protect your time and your energy by graciously declining invitations. You may not be as popular, but you will live a satisfying life.
If you have experienced activities or people that drain you emotionally, be more aware of them so that you’ll stay away the next time around.
End relationships that no longer serve you.
This another BIG one. Forgive those you can. Strive to be your greatest and most noble self, especially when it comes to family and other relationships that you can’t avoid.
When you have no alternatives, you must part ways with people who are negative influences on your life. You can’t create freedom and space in your life if you’re around individuals who are putting you down, bullying you, criticizing you, or making you feel terrible about yourself.
Create space for downtime.
It’s important to leave yourself some space for downtime for your relaxation and personal growth.
Do the things that help you relax, like taking walks, writing, cooking, gardening, crafting or reading articles on the OMC 😉
The idea is to create time to connect with yourself.
Simplify. Let go and reduce your commitments in your everyday life. Fill that space with whatever brings you more contentment.
Live more deliberately and intentionally so that you can enjoy life to its fullest.
Like I always say, ‘’If it doesn’t nourish you, get rid of it’’.