Brotherly Love

| August 26, 2013 | 3 Comments

A lot of people have asked me over the past seven months how Big Bro “gets along” with Little Bro. How did he like the new addition? Does he pay attention to his brother?

I admit it wasn’t love at first sight. Big Bro was not too keen on this new thing that Grammie and Grandad brought him to the hospital to meet. Our first attempt at a picture of all of us looked something like this:

I remember reading an excerpt from the Book Siblings Without Rivalry  (Faber and Mazlish) in which we are invited to put ourselves in the shoes of the former only child. We are asked to imagine if, say, our husbands came home one day with a new, younger, adorable “second wife” to add to the family, and we’re expected to be excited about it.

God! Is that what it can be like for them? Heck! I’d be jumping out of the picture too. At LEAST!

I am an eldest child and was three and a half when my brother was born. I don’t remember feeling dethroned, per se (I don’t really remember anything), but I’m told I did ask when we were bringing him back. I quickly came to be very fond of him though.

I’m happy to say that Big Bro has seemingly also quite taken to his little brother in recent months, and I assure those with new second babies to hang in there as well. With lots of one-on-one time and important “Big Bro” jobs, he has come to see this new addition as a good thing (or maybe that he just forgets that Little Bro didn’t exist before Christmas time).

Here’s how I know that things are looking up:

1. He has started to interact with him. This includes showing him various items around the house. And of course you know I mean by “showing” I mean “putting it virtually into his eyeball”.

2. He brings Little Bro’s toys to him. All of them. Every toy he owns is piled up on top of him, each delicately balanced on the last. Thankfully, Big Bro leaves him a breathing hole.

3. He is considerate of his little brother. He ensures everyone is aware of when Little Bro needs to sleep.

4. When Big Bro does his routine distribution of novelty hats (the wearing of which is not optional), he has begun to bring one for Little Bro, too. If this isn’t a sure sign that you’re in the club, I don’t know what is.

5. And finally, Big Bro enjoys spending time with his brother. When we go somewhere, even to a different floor of the house, he’ll often insist that the baby comes too. Or he’ll rock him in his car seat when he’s upset, pat him on the head or stuff a soother in his mouth.

Or, they’ll eye each other from across the table, or Big Bro will lie down head-to-head with him on the floor, and they’ll just start to giggle as if they’re up to something.

Uh oh. Okay, guys, let’s not get TOO chummy, now. I can see the scheming begin already.

How did you know your new family addition was officially “In the Club”?


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Category: Babies and Toddlers, Family

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I am a lifelong (award-winning!) cartoonist and mother of two delightful boys, aged 7 and 5. I like to view today's adventures in parenting as material for tomorrow's cartoon. Looking at family life through "cartoon-coloured glasses" helps me keep the all-important sense of humour required for raising kids... even for the events that don't seem so funny at the time.

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  1. kathy downey says:

    I loved this post !

  2. salexis says:

    Love the humour in this! Siblings are so complex! I keep wondering if my kids even love each other (i know they do…. but sometimes they make you wonder!) LOL Mine are 7.5 years apart which has it’s own challenges.

  3. Elizabeth Matthiesen says:

    Another great post with wonderful cartoons, thanks so much for this post it was fun to read. 🙂

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