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Know When Enough is Enough

| December 23, 2013 | 5 Comments

It is a question all mothers ask themselves. Are we doing enough for our kids? What more should we be doing for them? Business owners ask themselves the same sort of questions, but that could be a whole other post! Whether you are running a business or running a household, it is a challenge to know when enough is enough.

With so many holidays being celebrated this time of year, most people are really feeling the pressure to do more. Decorations, cooking, gifts, entertaining – how to do it all? I think the trick is knowing your limit in every specific situation. Each day, we have many opportunities to say “enough”! I was recently in a situation where I had to make a choice. Here is the story:

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It is the end of day school run. I have 1 child to pick up, since my 2 teens were at after school activities. I’ve brought the dog for a walk across the park to the school (hello, multitasking!) and I’m rushing, because I’m late. I can’t remember what biz-related task caused  me to leave later than I should have. The point is, I’m walking fast with a happy dog with barely a moment to spare until the school bell rang.

And then my dog stops to poop. Baggie-handed, I reach for it. And then my phone rings. It is an important call I’ve been waiting 2 days for. Here is my moment. Do I keep walking, holding the poop and the phone with the same hand? Can I really have this conversation out of breath, approaching a noisy school, without any means to make notes? Do I drop the poop, focus on the call, and leave my daughter waiting in the playground?

The phone is ringing, so I have to decide quickly. And in that moment, I thought: enough! Enough was enough. That call deserved my undivided attention, just like my daughter deserved to be picked up on time. It was an opportunity for me to be a good parent and a good business person. Just not in the same moment. I’d be a good mom now, and deal properly with the call later. There is a time to multitask, and a time to pick just one thing.

It was the right thing to do, and it was certainly the less stressful way to go. How often do you get opportunities to know you are doing enough?

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Category: Family, Living, Moms, Moms Wellness, Work

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Rebecca left her corporate cubicle to start Concierge Home Services, which helps makes lives better for busy homeowners by providing house cleaning, pet sitting, and home check services. Her company now has 6 locations in 3 cities, and ready for more franchisees. Rebecca practises kundalini yoga every morning, loves reading, learning, and quality time with her 2 daughters and baby grandson. Author's website.

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  1. Brenda A says:

    I am actively trying to NOT do as much for my almost 7 and 9 year old girls. As a stay at home Mom it just feels natural to DO so much for them. I know they are getting older and I am having to make conscious decisions to let them do things themselves. I really want to raise independent and free thinking kids!

  2. Victoria Ess says:

    This is such an important message for moms with children of all ages. I find that the tendency to want to do as much as possible for your children never leaves you if you don’t actively work to fight it.

  3. Elizabeth Matthiesen says:

    One has to learn to choose what is your number one priority, then you know what is most important and everything else gets relegated to further down the ‘to do’ list. It’s not easy as we all tend to want to do more than our time allows us to do.

  4. kathy downey says:

    important messages you have stated here

  5. kathy downey says:

    Sometimes the less you do is sometimes better than doing too much children

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