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From Tween to Teens: What a Roller Coaster Ride for Girls

| July 30, 2014 | 11 Comments

During puberty, a girl’s developing body is flooded by hormones. Therefore, this will affect her mood. Your sweet 12 year old daughter his now starting to have tantrums like a 2 year old, be a drama queen, and self-centered, as well as focused on her friends and activities. She also wants to feel grown up and be more independent. Let me assure you that it will pass and it also gives you the opportunity to strengthen your relationship with her. She will put you to the test, so you might have to change your parenting style and really focus on listening to her and looking for signs that she needs you (even if she says she doesn’t, at that age, she still does.). Remember how it was for you during that stage in your life, yes, I find that helps to understand her better. Unfortunately, we have all been there to some extent.

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It’s also a time of self acceptance, thus not always that easy with her peers, especially when girls say harsh words, be cruel, and also bully each other. There might be lots of pressure from friends to be part of the “gang’  or be “cool” and not be a little girl anymore. She will test your parenting skills! Even if your daughter pushes you away, a sign she needs more space, stay connected and spend quality time together, just the two of you, like a shopping or spa day, movie or game night, etc.. Take interest into what she likes is key to a bonding mother-daughter relationship. I found the best time to talk to my daughter would be just before bedtime where there were no distractions and when she was more open to talk about her day. A good night kiss, even when they are teenagers, is still acceptable!

I always tried to find ways to give my daughter more independence and have her make choices for herself since she was a child. Yes, she made mistakes, but it built her self-esteem and made her more responsible for her actions. I have to say that this helped with her not been rebellious through puberty.

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Sometimes we also forget that a specific incident that is no big deal to us might seem like the end of the world to your daughter. She might dramatize over growing pains and menstrual cramps, so use empathy with her. She might even be a typical teenager and just say things like “you just don’t get it”! Ouch!  Unfortunately, she doesn’t get that we have been through this too. Don’t take it personally or be hurt by what she says or does. Her hormones and emotions are a like a roller coster ride, up and down! She is trying to figure out her own identity, and has fears and insecurities. If I got into a heated argument with me daughter when she was cranky, I noticed that I was pushing her away. In life you have to learn when to win your battles, this was definitely not the time. Keep your cool, your voice calm, model self-control, and support her into becoming a young woman. Good luck!

For tips on helping you talk to your daughter about puberty, you can visit Always Changing website sponsored by P&G.

Although this post has been generously sponsored by Always, the opinions and language are all my own, and in no way do they reflect Always.

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

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Category: Family, Health, Mother-Daughter, Wellness

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Lyne is happily married and has two teenagers: a 16 year old son and a 20 year old daughter. She is a Certified Infant Massage Instructor (CIMI), Certified Professional Wedding Consultant, and an Event Planner. It has always been her dream to create a website dedicated just for Moms since her children were young. Thus, after 10 years, she finally accomplished it, and the Ottawa Mommy Club was born in May 2011. She is also the Queen B of the BConnected Conference, Canada's Digital Influencer and social media Conference in Ottawa. She coordinated the Annual Infant Information Day/Early Years Expo for the City of Ottawa for 8 years. She was also the co-chair of the Navan for Kraft Hockeyville 2009-2011 committee that organized five community events within 6 months, and helped Navan reach the top 10 finalists in Canada. In April 2011, she received the Mayor's City Builder Award.

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  1. Elizabeth Matthiesen says:

    Having brought up 4 daughters (& 3 sons) so I know all about puberty in girls. It’s not an easy time and one has to have a lot of patience but looking at mine now that they have families of their own, I feel I must have done something right 🙂

  2. Victoria Ess says:

    Great post and the P&G site is definitely worth checking out.

    • Lyne Proulx says:

      Thank you for your kind words. I have to say that I was really surprise with all the information that is available to moms on the Always Changing P&G site. Really wishing I had heard about it when my daughter was in her puberty.

  3. Judy Cowan says:

    Yes it definitely is a rollercoaster ride but you just have to remember that you will get through it and to be there to support her during that time. And lots of patience helps 🙂

  4. Suzie M says:

    So true, such a trying time for everyone & then they turn into beautiful young women. Such a reward

  5. Karen D says:

    We have had the talk explaining that she will get her cycle, and the equipment used, but not about the emotions that come with it. The Always Changing website will sure be handy!

  6. kathy downey says:

    puberty conversation needs to start early

  7. kathy downey says:

    Rushes of emotions and they dont understand whats happening,communication is the Key

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